Even yesterday, your baby was small, helpless andfunny. But time flies very, very quickly - first smile, first word, first step and going to the garden. After quite a bit of time - first class, the top five first two. And recently, you've noticed that your baby strange changes. What it is? Do not be afraid of the changes taking place - most likely, your child gradually entered puberty. In order to help your child through this difficult period in his life, parents need to have an accurate idea of what is puberty and how it should proceed normally.
Remember that puberty boys and girls are absolutely different. Puberty for boys and girlsIt begins at different times, and proceeds differently as perceived by children totally differently. For example, early puberty in girls - a phenomenon quite frequent, while boys more characteristic of delayed puberty. However, premature puberty girls should not be cause for panic among parents.
And boys and girls pubertyIt takes about five years. As mentioned above, the timing of the onset of puberty is very individual and can vary greatly in one direction or the other. If parents notice significant variations, it makes sense to consult with a pediatrician. The doctor is able to more adequately assess the condition of the physical development of the child, and, if necessary, he would send the child to additional tests that will help reliably ascertain the reasons for the deviation from the norm.
However, serious problems of hormonal natureand are extremely rare. Almost always the cause of the deviation is a hereditary trait. If at least one parents at the time were also deviations in either direction, it is a 50% increase in the risk of such abnormalities in children. Especially it concerns the growth of the child - if both parents are short, do not expect intense growth spurt at the teenager.
Modern medicine has established a framework within whichIt must fit the beginning of puberty, boys and girls. Early puberty in girls starts at 8 years old, the boys - with 10 years, the deadline for the start of puberty for girls - 12 years, and for boys - 14 years. If the parents are experiencing any - any doubts, they should consult a doctor or pediatrician endocrinologist. In no case do not express their concerns or doubts about the presence of a child - is able to inflict quite severe psychological trauma, which then you have to fight for a long time. Remember that the teen psyche is very, very vulnerable.
Puberty in girls
Before we talk about pubertymaturation in girls, it should be understood that generally implies a concept of "puberty". Puberty is nothing else, as a period of very rapid growth of the child, which lasts for about two years that precede the onset of puberty girls. The onset of puberty in girls is considered the beginning of the first menstrual period.
As has been mentioned, can not beaccurately be called the age at which begins during puberty in girls. The average age of onset of puberty - about 11 years, respectively, the first menstrual cycle after about two years, ie 13 years. However, recently there has been a tendency for the early puberty is becoming more frequent and begins around the age of 9 years. In some cases, especially if the mother's sexual maturation was late, the girl, it can start in 13 years, respectively first period - 15 years. Occasionally, there are cases when puberty begins at 7 or 15 years, but this phenomenon is pathological and in need of medical correction. In that case, if precocious puberty girls worried about their parents, they should consult a doctor.
If the deviation is not so dramatic, theyWe should not scare parents. The most common deviations from the mean static figures do not signal any - any failure in the hormonal background of the child and malfunctions hormonal glands, and just talk about the genetic predisposition of the child. If you do not remember the beginning of their puberty, talk to your parents - they are sure to be able to dispel all your doubts. In no case do not give your child any hormonal therapy, unless they are appointed by the attending physician - it can cause irreparable harm to the child's health and even, in the future, lead to infertility girls.
So what are the signs of pubertygirls? The following describes the main stages of puberty, typical for girls. At the age of 7 - 8 years old baby has grown by about 7 centimeters per year, and by 9 increase in growth was only about two centimeters, as if nature has braked growth process. The same thing will happen during the tenth year of life - an increase in growth will not exceed 1 - 3 centimeters. But for 11 years of his life there is a powerful growth surge - over the next two years, increase in growth for the year will amount to an average of about 10 years, and will begin to grow rapidly, and its weight - instead of the usual 2 kilograms per year increase will be approximately 6 kilograms per year. However, apparently this will not be noticeable, moreover, that the girl would be just a "brutal" appetite because the body needs a lot of nutrients for such a rapid jump in growth.
In the body of the girls begin to happensignificant changes. At the very beginning of puberty marks the beginning of breast enlargement that occurs in the following way: first slightly increased areola and nipple, slightly bulging forward, and only then begins to mutate itself mammary gland. In the first year after the beginning of puberty, the mammary gland is a cone, but about a year before the start of the first menstrual cycle, it takes a more rounded, the usual form.
Immediately after the start of breast growthglands, and hair growth starts underarm and crotch area. Starts modification figure that becomes more feminine shape: the girl gradually begin to expand the hips, waist outlines. In addition, during this period varies drastically skin and hair structure, under the action of certain hormones, which will be discussed later.
Around 13 years, the girl comes firstmenstruation. Keep in mind that the formation of the menstrual cycle - is a long process and can take a long time - up to one year. While the menstrual cycle is not set, menstruation can be very irregular. This is absolutely normal and should not cause parents no fear. With the onset of the first menstrual cycle girl growth slows significantly, it will add to the growth of not more than 5 centimeters.
In menstruating girl's mother should pay specialclose attention. No matter how much the girl started her menstrual cycle - in 11 years or 15, this event always causes her stress. And imagine how much more severe stress will have one girl who knows absolutely nothing about what happens to her body? The girl may fall into panic and did not even tell my mother what was happening to her.
That is why the mother is simply obliged to timely,even before the onset of menstruation, and psychologically prepare the girl for the upcoming physiological changes in her body, teach the use of hygiene products and the rules of conduct during menstruation. Of course, the girl can find out about all this and from other sources, such as from friends. But in this case do not be surprised if the news of their first menstruation daughter will go not to you, but to a friend. In no case is inadmissible too rapidly react to the news of the approach of menstruation in girls, and it is not necessary to notify publicly about relatives and friends - it can greatly embarrass a girl.
It was during the sharp rise in the growth appearsthat same, familiar to almost all people, "awkwardness" girl - a teenager. The girl's parents do not have to worry about it - like body disproportion is absolutely normal, and is not no pathology. This period of "ugly duckling" will end very, very soon, your little princess will be a real beauty. Be sure to talk about it with the girl, it is necessary to explain what is the reason for this change, and how soon it will end.
A reason for such modifications is absolutely simple: puberty girls skeleton is growing most rapidly, but unevenly. All the bones grow with absolutely different rates, it is not synchronized - especially bones stretch the feet and hands, followed by the bones of the hands and face of the skull. And only in the last instance the body is pulled. This explains the fact that the girl - a teenager is often too long arms and legs may be a little long face. In addition, it is often girls muscle growth rate is significantly less bone growth rate, resulting in adolescent movement are often awkward and angular.
Usually, the signs of puberty inGirls pronounced, so if there is premature puberty in girls, there may be problems of a psychological nature. Girl will certainly feel embarrassed by her place of change, if its peers - classmates they have not yet begun. If your daughter that question is quite painful, you need to speak with the teacher of a girl who will make sure the school girl does not become a subject of ridicule.
And you would be nice with her daughter to turn tochild psychologist, who most tactfully and with knowledge of the characteristics of child and adolescent mental explain to the girl that all the changes that occur with it, it is absolutely normal and natural.
But mostly what the girl will acceptchanges taking place in her body, depends on how close and good relationship with her mother. Make sure as much as possible, and often communicate with his daughter, and answer to all, even if you seem stupid questions. Believe me, this will be compensated, because if your daughter will trust you, you will be much easier to go through her adolescence.
However, psychological problems mayIt is associated not only with precocious puberty girls, but also late. If a girl sees to it 13 -1 4 years it happens almost no changes, and all of her friends and classmates have changed dramatically and grown, it is uncomfortable and starts to worry, because as a girl she is still just in the very slow age stage, which precedes the onset of puberty. Of course, the girl, in comparison with their peers, feels extremely uncomfortable, she can develop a strong inferiority complex, because it feels worse than all the other girls.
This situation can also help justconstant communication with his daughter, which must be explained and reminded again and again that what is happening there is nothing wrong and that puberty is inevitable. Mom can cite as an example themselves, even if the reality will have a little spice. In severe cases, if the mother can not cope on their own, and sees that her daughter does not go to the contact, and closed in itself, it is recommended to consult a child psychologist. In no case can not ignore this problem, because such trauma are very strong, and inferiority complex may poison the existence of a girl all her life.
The sexual development of girls may have differentvariation, and not always just age. In some cases, the appearance of hair varies considerably its sequence. As a rule, first there is growth and the formulation of the breast, then there are pubic hair, and only in the last instance the hair appear in the armpits. However, sometimes the hair armpits appear primarily, while the remaining signs of sexual maturation and more visible. And sometimes in the first place there are hairs on the genitals, which is the first sign of puberty, after which there are all the others. In addition, doctors have noticed an interesting pattern - the sooner the girl started puberty, the faster it flows, and, accordingly, rather than later - the longer the process of puberty. For example, a girl who has puberty started at 9 years old, it lasts no more than one and a half years, whereas if the beginning was the girl in 14 years - it will take about two and a half years.
Puberty in boys
Puberty in boys alsoIt lasts a few years. It can be divided into several stages. Despite the fact that the erection of the penis, the boy observed immediately after birth, grudnichkovom and early childhood the child completely asexual and erection boy has only a mechanical nature arise, as it has not for a absolutely no sexual underlying reason.
Active puberty in boys,usually begins around the age of 11 years of life, which is actively flowing throughout adolescence (13 to 18). In adolescence, there is a rapid puberty. Having passed all the stages of puberty in boys, it ends at the age of 18 - 19 years before puberty begins. Stages of puberty, boys are at that age, which is called pubertal (the word comes from the Latin. «Pubertas» word that means puberty). It was during this period the boy begin to appear secondary sex characteristics and is formed genitalia, as well as start a full-fledged operation of the sex glands.
Age of puberty in boysIt starts at about 10 - 11 years. During this period, the boy observed an intense surge of growth, and to the 13 - 14 years is the formation of the skeletal system is of male type. However, the entire process of growth and change in shape takes place only to the 20 - 22 years, not before.
Very many parents are concerned about whether or not dependsthe age of puberty in boys and, when it is completed. In fact, when completed puberty, it depends on many factors such as:
- The general condition of the child's health. In that case, if there are any - or chronic illness, or there was a serious injury or surgery, may be a delay of puberty in boys.
- The important role played by the nature of how the nervous and endocrine systems. Failures in their work also often lead to the fact that there is a delay of puberty in boys.
- Constitutional particular phenotype sometimes also lead to the fact that there is a delay of sexual development in boys.
However, delay of sexual development in boys,as a rule, it is not due to serious reasons. Moreover, it should be borne in mind that the beginning of puberty in boys is as individual as the girls. In some cases, there is early puberty in boys, while in other cases, by contrast, a later date. Early puberty in boys more often it is caused by a genetic predisposition - if his father started puberty early, the likelihood that my son it will proceed likewise, is approximately 80%.
Precocious puberty in boysvery rarely caused by some - a disease of the hormonal system, but when puberty began earlier than 10 years, parents, for your own peace of mind should turn to the pediatrician, who assessed the child's condition, if necessary, forward it to the appropriate specialists who will conduct the necessary examination. Avoid visiting the doctor is not necessary, because, very rarely, but still precocious puberty in boys may indicate the presence of tumor in the brain.
Home puberty occurs indue to the fact that the boy begins active turbulent hormonal activity of sexual glands, especially testicles. All the gonads are in close interaction with the rest of the endocrine glands, which carries out the correlation between the boy's nervous system of the body.
Parents should be aware of all the features of sexualmaturing boys. This is necessary in order to respond to emerging issues in adolescents, as well as to notice possible deviations from the normal course of puberty. But it must be remembered that there may be individual characteristics of sexual development in boys, so in case of the parents of any kind was no doubt, should consult a doctor.
In teenagers who are under activepuberty, the body is a series of major changes, both somatic (physical) and psychological nature. The beginning of puberty in boys is considered to be the appearance of the first expression of secondary sexual characteristics: significant increase of the penis, scrotum, the appearance of hair in the genital area and armpits, a change in voice tone.
Around the same time, at the same timethe appearance of secondary sexual characteristics, the boy begins the appearance of erection, which has a pronounced sexual orientation. In addition, this period is characterized by the as yet ill-defined and irregular nocturnal emissions. A gradual increase in the size of the seminal vesicles and prostate, of the operation begins.
Pollutions - is uncontrolled, absolutelyinvoluntary ejaculation, often occurring at night or in any way related to any sexual intercourse or masturbation. Nocturnal emissions in adolescence - absolutely normal physiological nature, occurring on average three times a week. The emergence of nocturnal pollutions boy - teenager indicates that the child has reached the stage of puberty, which have already begun to function and the seminal vesicles. Typically, wet dreams occur during vivid erotic dreams, but teens tend to be after waking rarely remember them. Parents should exercise maximum tact and to pretend that they do not notice his son nocturnal pollutions.
As I mentioned slightly higher in malessecondary sexual characteristics are considered to be not only an increase of the penis, but also the emergence of vegetation - in the genital area and armpits, and on the face. It should also pay attention to the fact that men have pubic hair grow absolutely in the same way as in women and has a different direction of hair growth. The man pubic hair growth are wedge-lin and a woman, on the contrary, the hair does not grow up and to the side. If the boy has a tendency to grow hair on the female type, parents should show the child's doctor - endocrinologist. This may be a symptom of a problem with the child's body's endocrine system.
Features puberty and boysand include the changes that occur with his voice. The voice of the boy gradually becomes much lower and rougher. This phenomenon doctors linked to the processes that are taking place with the larynx boy under the influence of certain hormones: the thyroid cartilage of the larynx is greatly increased in size, in addition, there is ossification of certain of its parts.
The boy in puberty asthere are cardinal changes in the development and structure of bone - muscular system. There is a significant increase in weight not only directly bones of the skeleton, but also the entire skeletal musculature. skeleton formation occurs male pattern: narrow hips, wider shoulders. The boys are much less pronounced subcutaneous fat. If the girls at puberty subcutaneous fat in relation to total body weight is equal to 30%, boys, this figure does not exceed 19%. Of course, in some cases, the boy may be overly fat, and his body is too rounded and look like a female, but, more often, a similar phenomenon is very short and passes quickly on their own. If you are faced with a similar situation and see that your son this question bothers sure to talk with them and explain that very soon the situation will change drastically.
The structure of the pelvic bone is also dramaticallychanges - boys first pelvis becomes narrower and longer and eventually going on the final formation of the pelvis of male type. The trunk is significantly shortened, and the lower jaw, on the contrary, it is much more a boy than girls.
In addition, the boy in the body that occurdramatic changes somatic, puberty is also characterized by significant changes in the nature and behavior is typical of a man, not a child. During this period, the boys begin to show interest in the first against girls, they have an amorous, and the first sexual attraction. This process necessarily includes the steps of puberty in boys.
Parents should be very, very careful,tolerant and tactful in dealing with the boy being in the stage of puberty. Unlike the girls, the psyche and the nervous system is very boys in this period - and very labile. Frequent change of mood, increased susceptibility, irritability and even unmotivated aggression, depression, causeless - it is only a small "bunch of charms" that accompany puberty boy. And how wise parents will behave in relation to his son - teenager boy depends on the formation of character and psychological atmosphere in the family. Remember that teenagers are very categorical in his judgments, and often act very rapidly and recklessly - one wrong word can cause a lot of trouble, from leaving home, completing suicide attempt.
During puberty, the boy comesnot only the physical change of the body, but also an active intellectual development of the adolescent. The young man is looking for his place in society, chooses its own individual pattern of behavior - often he observed a pronounced desire for independence, the reality in most cases the reality is perceived through the prism of critical powerful enough. During this period there is a formation of flavors and sensations, completely ending the formation of human character.
The parents, both boys and girls in anythe case should not lose sight of this important aspect, as the sex life. Despite the fact that your children that you feel still very small, most of today's young people become sexually active is at puberty. Parents must talk to children about the dangers of promiscuity and contraception that after not reap the bitter fruits of ignorance of their children in matters of sexual aspects.
The main key to your success should betrusting relationship between parents and their child. A child needs to feel trust and respect of their parents. This will cause a response of respect and trust to their parents by the teenager. The child will know exactly what to absolutely any problem, he can turn to you and get help and support, rather than accusations and blame.</ P>