Sex in a woman's life: the mystery of female pleasure
What is sex in a woman's life? As if we were there or fended off the question, saying that for us, sex does not play a role, it is not. And the young ladies, and the ladies at the age he needs, even if this fact is not recognized them or not realized. Because it is a source of vitality, and regulating mood and behavior, and human health. By nature man received a great gift - he can use this source, unlike animals, not only for procreation. With it, the person touches the mystery of the formula of happiness of all things. And he feels part of the universe that loves, supports, consoles ...
In short, the sex role in a woman's life at allnot less than its role in man's life. And maybe even more. Because it not only fills the weaker sex positive energy, but also makes it younger and more attractive. It would seem, then we are supposed to feel stronger than men, sexual desire. However, most often for some reason it turns out the other way around. What happens with the female libido and why this is happening?
Why do women have weak libido
Some people believe that for the majority of the daughters of Eve (inUnlike her sons) sex is not a very important part of happiness. But like it should not be! Because both women and men are the same stage of sexual development. This means that the desire to intercourse in both sexes should be equal. Well ... Certainly not! Number of female headaches that occur at the moment when the husband turns desire to exceed the total amount of pain in the whole of humanity. Why is it a weak half of reproductive age frequently suffer from migraines?
Frankly, all the causes of female vybrykilibido still remain a mystery. Similarly, only one thing: a very important role in the increase or decrease of sexual desire is the level of hormones. But they - not the only culprits of what is happening. Acting on our libido is not only physical, but also hereditary, age and psychological factors.
In general, the formation of the quality of women'sMore sexual desire begins in adolescence. It was then that in the minds of the young girl imprinted basic features of an ideal sexual partner. Adjusting its image occurs throughout life. And it can dramatically change the original idea of the ideal because of some severe stress and trauma. And with it will change and the power of sexual attraction. And this occurs in the downward and upward.
Of great importance in the development of female libido isfirst sexual intercourse. It is important that it went less smoothly. If the guy is rude or too incompetent, she is unlikely to get from sex at least some fun. As a result, the first sex she will not very pleasant memories. And they will turn off your drive as long as the young woman appears who knows a lot about caresses her perfect partner. Well, if such will not be, it can never know the true sexual pleasure.
I must say that the sexy womansignificantly different from male sexuality. In the weaker sex in it dominates the emotional component of the libido, have a strong - physiological. That is, the ladies more than their partners, to drive the need tender words, gentle touching, kissing. If all this is not enough, the woman usually does not get on the proximity of complete satisfaction. As a result, it gradually loses interest in it. And then before the intima she often begins to "headache".
Speaking of headache. In many cases, in women, rarely gets an orgasm, it really is the place to be. The absence of a regular sexual release negative effect on the psyche, causing the most headaches, irritability, irascibility, depression and other annoying phenomena. Of course, a woman with this condition is rarely in a good mood. And it can be very bad for her personal life. Men can not stand forever all the discontented, not appreciating sex friends. At best, they simply move away, at worst - are unwound home.
Well, we now seemed to understand that after all the sex in women's lives means a lot. How to make it quite complete and prevent the suppression of libido own for years to come?
How to awaken a desire for sex
In fact, women's sexual desire andIt should always be the same. For example, when women are ovulating, her desire sex jumps to the peak. These days, men should be regarded as the holidays - the Lady becomes very sexy and gets an orgasm faster. Yes, even sometimes more than once. Then thirst for sex in women is somewhat reduced. It is not so common wants intimacy and may even abandon it, inventing, for example, that a headache. In principle, it is normal. And the question is solved. Simply with tenderness and kindness come to the poor girl-martyr, and her headache as the arm lift. However, not all men are, unfortunately, it is understood, demanding sex right this minute here, period. Well, then, you have to tell! And at the same time show your favorite erogenous zones.
Each of us are unique erogenous zone. And one or the other zone is especially sensitive at a certain mental attitude. Because in order for a woman to get real pleasure from sex, you need to participate in the intima of not only her body but also the inner essence. And the essence of this is not very sensitive to physical affection and gentle to him, that our men are so often forget to whisper in your ear. No, to reach the peak of pleasure is necessary, of course, not every pair. But only two can know that it is necessary that in the sexual act took part not only the body but the soul - words whether the sounds of whether, imagination ... and connect them, not just mechanically excite each other erogenous zones without taking into attention to emotions.
Well, what to do if an orgasm even with the mostskillful caresses men still did not come? We must learn from him. In general, an orgasm is usually a reaction to the stimulation of the clitoris and the point G. Few women can experience it, if there is no such stimulation. For the rest of the normal sexual act with the introduction of only a member of the vagina can cause except that only the psychological satisfaction. Yes, and then not always. But if during sex, men do not forget about the most sensitive spot on the partner's body, it is sure to be on top of the world. And rather quickly, if the young lady will concentrate on the sensations in your erogenous zones.
Orgasm Women and its strength depends on, canCan a woman fully relax in bed. If during the next present anxiety, fear, tension, - nothing good is likely from sex will not work. In order to get from him the emotional and physical pleasure, needed psychological comfort. Powerful barriers to orgasm is a feeling of resentment toward the partner, the hostility towards him. In other words, men and women of the relationship and its ability to forget the existing problems play an important role as a sexual act. Of course, this question is not so easy to solve. Not every one of us can take here and disconnect from the negative thoughts and emotions. But you need to work on it. For their own sake. Do not get yourself? Referring to the expert. Let help.
Practising intimate muscles
In order to learn to listen to your body andget him to enjoy sex, you can do the training intimate muscles by the method of the American gynecologist Arnold Kegel. It's very simple exercises, the bulk of the exercise which needs no separate room, or in the allocation of time for them. It consists in alternating contraction and relaxation of the muscles of the vagina at regular intervals. Variations such alternations lot, so every woman can choose the most suitable variant of it. But one of the improved methods Kegel exercises to perform at home to be:
- Starting charging with what passes forroom, lifting his knees high. Socks are extended. Hands relaxed, lowered along the body. Doing so sixty steps. More then sixty steps, in which the foot before lowering allot a knee to the side;
- Lie on your back. The legs bend at the knees and pulled up to his chest. Exhale sharply, squeezing the intimate muscles. Return to the starting position. Inhale. Repeat twenty times;
- In a standing position to take a deep breath nose. At the same time we squeeze the vaginal muscles draw in the abdomen and hold the breath for a few minutes. Slowly exhale. Perform five times. Then repeat the exercise, but instead of retracting an issue of his belly;
- Lie on your back. Legs bent at the knees. Feet flat on the floor. Raise your pelvis, hips deployed in hand, intimate muscles tense. In this position, hold for about five seconds. Perform fifteen times;
- Put feet wider than shoulder width. Socks turned out. Crouch, breathing and squeezing intimate muscles. Quickly return to the starting position, breathing. Repeat fifteen - twenty times;
- We went on all fours. Arches her back; we also pelvis forward, straining muscles of the vagina. Stand so within five seconds. Then flex your back, pelvis serve back a little, intimate muscles tense. Repeat this exercise ten times, allowing the muscles to rest when you change positions.
Also Kegel exercises there is still a number of sets of exercises that contribute to getting orgasm. For example, one of such complexes is as follows:
- We sit on the floor. Legs are stretched, closed. The back is tilted back slightly. Hands on the floor does not abut. Keep your balance and squeeze your buttocks. We count to ten and relax the buttocks. We do this five - six times. Then spreads her legs and repeat the exercise;
- The standing position is clamped between the buttocks of a coin. We go with her back straight and trying to keep the coin as long as you can not fall;
- This exercise should be done together with a partner. Of all the forces straining muscles of the vagina. Man tries to enter it. Gradually, the muscles relax as his penis enters. Once it enters completely, lightly squeeze the muscles, count to five, and again they relax.
If we really want to make sure thatsexual relations brought joy, exercises should be done regularly. And as often as possible. No time? Well, it'll just alternate clenching and unclamping muscles, doing some chores. It's not difficult! And it is extremely useful. Because sex - part of life, part of the convergence of male and female strength and a happy coexistence of the sexes.
At the same time, trying to get an orgasm, it is necessaryconsider that it may be different and is not always achieved. Each of us have their own characteristics. Someone more inclined to physiological pleasure, and someone - to the emotional. Sometimes an orgasm is very bright, it is quite pale at times. But it can get almost all healthy women. It is necessary only to want. And I want very desirable! Because we are not a means to meet the needs of men. We - equal with them participants of sexual intercourse, which is to bring pleasure to both partners. And if we love her man, then the orgasm would be the greatest gift for him. So why deprive yourself and loved this wonderful opportunity? The world is multi-faceted and colorful. Do not make it monotonous and dull. We must always remember that sex in the lives of women - one of the brightest colors of the world.</ P>