Early pregnancy in adolescents
- Why is this happening?
- What to do?
- Young grandmother
- Medical Aspects
"What child would not play, if only not to lapbrought! "I'm sure everyone has heard such a joke. However, as they say, there is some joke in every joke. Even in the last century, non-marital children and early pregnancy caused sharply negative attitude of others. And if the ratio of children born out of wedlock in our time has become more tolerant, that early pregnancy is still by others is only condemnation.
Officially early pregnancy - ispregnancy, which came at the girl, does not achieved the age of 18. Incidentally, it is for this reason early pregnancy is often referred to as a teenage. But the problem is not entirely in the fact that the girl at the time of pregnancy has not reached the age of majority, and that often such a pregnancy is the result of habitat, which is forced to live a teenage girl. And very rarely contribute to the welfare of the future child.
Why is this happening?
More often than not, many people see the main disadvantageearly pregnancy is that of the young moms turn away relatives and in general all the people around. But this is absolutely not true - unfortunately, the girls from the family and friends in most cases turned away long before the onset of pregnancy. And pregnancy in most cases it is a consequence of this!
Let's try to understand why there are early pregnancy. So:
- girls Rape
Alas, the rape of our time stillIt occurs often enough. And in most cases they do not commit evil maniacs and surrounding female representatives of the male sex. By the way, including my mother's friends. Whose oversight that girl "revolved" is not in the circle of your own?
Yes, and if the girl was rapedstranger on the street, there is a natural question arises - why it happens late at night on a street? I could not stand the unfavorable psychological home environment? Or parents simply do not care where and with whom their young daughter? Although, of course, there are indeed tragic situation where the entire blame becomes an unfortunate situation.
- Deviant behavior
Statistics show that more oftenthe other pregnant women associated with so-called "bad companies". That may be so, but if you ever wondered why a child falls into this same company? Most often this occurs when a child is left to his own - usually it happens in the event that parents devote all his time to work, or are antisocial lifestyle.
And sometimes it can happen in a completelyhappy family where the parents hold the child in a "tight rein". Excessive strictness also not good if the parents do not even try to understand your child. And in the end she went to seek understanding of the street. And get into bad company - a matter of time.
- Lack of knowledge
Strange as it may seem, but it is veryoften teenage pregnancy are a direct consequence of the lack of basic knowledge of the girl. Despite the fact that all information is freely available, many girls are completely ignorant in sexual matters. A recent poll of senior pupils showed that about 40% of girls truly believe that during the first sexual intercourse is impossible to conceive, 25% of girls are sure that after cleaning the sexual act eliminates the possibility of pregnancy. And about 90% of girls are not able to find the right means of contraception.
Furthermore: most girls are not able in time to realize that they are pregnant - simply did not notice a delay of menstruation, and the increase in clothing size attributed to the need to adhere to a strict diet. Unfortunately, this is - entirely parental oversight. It is in the family of the girl had to tell simple truths. Moreover - she must know that she can always consult with her mother.
- planned pregnancy
Yes, do not be surprised! Sometimes it happens - the girl deliberately planning a pregnancy. Typically, this occurs in two cases. In the first place, so she tries to assert itself - it seems to her that nobody likes and nobody needs it. And she decides to have a baby, believing that he will always love her.
And secondly, so teenage girlmay protest the excessive, in its view, the care of the parents. Like, "I stop to raise, I'm a grown man and she can be a mother!". Of course, pregnancy in this case serves as another proof of immaturity girl, not her sanity.
What to do?
All about pregnancy is in any event forwomen strong shock - even if she is married and expecting a baby very much. And as for the teenager and even more so. And as in any emergency situation, you need to know exactly how to proceed:
- Consult your doctor!
If the girl began to suspect that shePregnant, in any case, do not procrastinate and hope for a miracle - itself "will not resolve." It should as soon as possible address to the gynecologist. By the way, pay attention to the choice of doctor. If after the first few words of your doctor to send you for your parents, you can safely look for another doctor.
Of course, any serious procedures without doctorparental consent will not do. But check the availability of pregnancy, to help the girl prepare for the upcoming inevitable conversation with my parents the good doctor will never give up.
- Tell the child's father
Be sure to put in the unborn child's father famous. Pregnancy involve two parties. So, and shared responsibility.
- Talk with parents
No matter how terrible the conversation did not seem,it can not be avoided. So do not over-tighten - tell all parents. Of course, we do not expect that you pat on the head. But, most likely, a storm of emotions will soon subside and eventually parents will understand, forgive and support you.
- Crisis centers
In that case, if your gynecologist's officeshe heard ridicule or try to shame, and talk with parents is almost impossible, she can ask for help in one of the crisis centers, whose activity is directed at supporting young people. To date, there are such centers in almost all major cities. Of course, the experts of the center will not solve for a girl, what decision to take in this situation. But support it in any way - provide the required information, if necessary, in the solution posodeystvuyut medical and household matters.
Of course, the girl got in a similarsituation will hear a lot of the most diverse councils - from doctors, friends, and parents. But it is very important to carefully weigh everything and make your own decision, not depending on anybody. Remember - this is your and only your child. And that you will be responsible for the lives and well-being of the little man.
Virtually no mother will not accept the newspregnancy his young daughter with joy. As a rule, in most cases the first reaction - aggression and numerous accusations against the daughter, and the whole of the world as a whole. However, my mother is worth considering - but someone must be to blame, really?
Of course, if you want to find the culprit - youyou can find him. But to solve the problem it will not help you. Especially as most of the main culprits of this phenomenon, as mentioned above, it is becoming parents. And in particular - the mother of the girl. It was her fault that it was not possible to establish a warm and trusting relationship with his daughter. But for teens it is very, very important!
By the way, very often maternal aggressionIt explained by the subconscious protest, which she might not suspect. For example: "I was too young and can not be a grandmother!", "How dare you do something without my knowledge or consent!". And if you become pregnant grandfather must first seek help from a gynecologist, then her mother to visit a psychologist. Unfortunately, in most cases, all protests mother teenager rely only on her subconscious complexes.
For example, a woman insists on an abortion evenIf all objective reasons indicate its unacceptability. And in fact, she desperately afraid of becoming a grandmother - in fact she was only about 35 years! Of course, that all of its essence rebel against this injustice. Or, for example, a woman is pathologically afraid that with the birth of her own child her daughter become independent and no longer be entirely hers.
And sometimes vice versa - in spite of the fact that the girlall the forces opposed to the birth of the child, there are serious abnormalities or pregnancy, for example, is the result of violence, her mother insists on the birth of this child. And not always a woman works for the good of her daughter. Sometimes this decision is dictated by the desire to associate daughters - teens on the hands and feet, so that they entirely depended on the parents. And sometimes the young grandmother intend to use the baby as a daughter of the control lever.
Of course, the future grandmother can be indignant,after reading these lines. But do not immediately deny it and refuse to visit a specialist. The psychologist will help you understand yourself and find a common language with her daughter. As they say, never too late to learn. Learn to be a friend of her daughter. After all, it is necessary and so is now very difficult - Early pregnancy is a very serious challenge for the teens!
In any case, you will have to make a decision -give birth or have an abortion. And in fact, and in another case, to begin should visit a gynecologist. The doctor prescribe the necessary examination and give their recommendations. As a rule, in most cases, doctors do not recommend highly to interrupt the first pregnancy. And it's not just teens. However, if the decision to terminate a pregnancy, to delay this unpleasant procedure is not necessary.
Of course, for the body of girls - teenagersany abortion would be a severe blow. But of two evils choose the lesser need - vacuum aspiration will bring much less harm to the body of a young girl. In addition, it will reduce the likelihood of developing all kinds of complications that often develop even in adult women, not to mention teenagers. Although, of course, the final decision on the method of termination of pregnancy, the doctor will take.
Well, if you decide that the child has the right tolife and decided to give birth, your most loyal ally in the next 9 months, should also become a gynecologist. Pregnancy in adolescents has a number of its features, so must proceed under strict medical supervision. The sooner you contact them, the better for you and the future remains. Usually, in big cities can be found gynecologists specializing namely management of pregnancy in adolescents. But if you live in a small town, do not despair - you surely district gynecologist successfully cope with this task.
The earliest a pregnancy would be joyful andexciting event in the life of a young mom, if it takes place in a calm psychological situation, with the support of loved ones. After all the difficulties of life, as well as young age, is a temporary phenomenon. And your baby will be the families and friends of the little man for a lifetime! And believe me - enjoy the brilliant crafty eye, leaping laughter and sonorous golosochkom, calling out "Mama!" Does not go to any comparison with the pleasure of visiting a nightclub. And education is available and being a mother - it would wish. Be happy!</ P>